I don’t think there is such a thing as an equal balance between mom life and a social life. I think it’s a matter of finding a healthy balance that works for you. Mom life will always dominate a social life, but that certainly doesn’t mean you can’t have a social life. Instead of going out once a week, you may just get to go out once a month (if you can get a family member to watch your kid(s) or hire a sitter that is).
Honestly, it’s not easy giving up the social life you’re used to, especially when you have kids at a young age. I had my first at 19 and now I’m pregnant with my second at 25. I love my son and I’m happy that I’m pregnant right now. But that doesn’t mean I don’t miss out on things or get upset when I have to miss out on those things. I didn’t plan either pregnancy but I did choose to go through with both pregnancies. My life has only gotten better since becoming a mother. It’s been hard but boy has it been fun!
And besides, I’d rather miss an occasional get together rather than miss something adorable my kid did. There will always be another get together, but your kid may not do that adorable thing ever again.
I am grateful for any opportunity I have to take a break to unwind or have some freedom to go out. I usually spend my free time going to shows (I need to learn to relax more), and I have been very fortunate for how many shows and music festivals I have been able to attend. Last year, I went to 4 music festivals, 2 Bassnectar curated events and a bunch of local Nashville shows. As my son has gotten older, I have been able to do more. Now that I’m pregnant with my second, life has been winding down again, and that’s okay.
Just as it’s important to find a balance between mom life and a social life, it’s important to find balance within everything in your life. Balance is a lesson we’ll never stop learning.